Do you pay on a first date?

When it comes to a romantic meal out, it seems that most women want to be pampered - and most don't expect to pay either.

According to a survey, 50 per cent are a "cursory purse grabber" - someone who makes as if to pay, but doesn't really intend to. Only three in ten offer to go Dutch, while the rest simply sit back and do nothing.

Meanwhile, the survey of more than 1,240 diners claims that 85 per cent of men would quietly pick up the bill when the woman leaves the table to visit the cloakroom.

"The cursory purse grabber may sound like a pickpocket, and in reality that's what she is doing," said a spokesman for www.toptable.co.uk, an online restaurant booking agency.

The survey also showed that chivalry is not dead, with nearly 75 per cent of men still prepared to pay even if the date had not gone well. Most will also let a woman choose where to sit in a restaurant and let her order first.

Asked the same set of questions, 81 per cent of women agreed they liked to choose where to sit and just three per cent said they wanted a man to order for them.

Asked what they considered was "the height of chivalry", 36 per cent said it was the man picking up the bill, 37 per cent that he kept her wine glass topped up and 27 per cent that he stood up when a woman left the table. Read on >>