5 Things That Can Ruin Your Sex Life

Are you guilty of committing any of the following common sexual sins? They each have the potential to destroy your sex life, but don't panic - they're all preventable. If you want to be the best lover he's ever had - not to mention maxing out your own pleasure potential - pay close attention.

Sex Sin #1: Squeamishness

Most people have their most intense orgasms by way of oral sex. With that said, refusing to give your partner oral sex is unforgivable. Women who jump five feet if a drop of semen dares to land somewhere it supposedly shouldn't will top any man's list of Girls I Never Want to Sleep with Again. How could it possibly be a turn-on for a guy to see a woman approach his penis with her nose crinkled up and an "Ew!" expression on her face?

Get over It

If you're worried about smell - his or your own - pounce on him straight after a shower. Solve any gagging problems by using a position where you're in control (for example, he stands in front of you while you sit on the bed facing him with one hand holding his penis as you take him in your mouth). As for swallowing, most men won't mind if you don't, so long as there's an appealing alternative. If that's the case, try removing your mouth as you continue to stimulate him with your hand, and let him ejaculate elsewhere on your body or his. Yes, there will be a mess - but sex is messy. And the sooner you accept that there's no way to avoid ending up sweaty and smudged, with stained, crumpled sheets, the better.

Sex Sin #2: Fear of Experimentation

Your partner wants you to dress up as a waitress? Lick pumpkin pie from his navel? Play a game of naked Twister? Resist your usual knee-jerk reaction, and instead of asking, "What planet are you from?" consider it. We all march to the beat of a different drum, and if that's what does it for him, why not indulge him? Just because the "average" population doesn't appear to need or want the same, who cares? So long as no one is being hurt physically or emotionally, and it doesn't become a necessity (which then moves it into fetish territory), aim to be a healthily adventurous Anything Goes Girl. Nothing kills a sex life faster than a partner who refuses to push herself out of her sexual comfort zone. If you refuse every time he suggests something new, you're sending a clear signal: Your pleasure and needs aren't important to me. Judge him for suggesting something "bad" or "shocking," and you virtually guarantee he'll never propose doing anything even vaguely interesting ever again. Read more>>