19 November, 2007

Putting sex back into a sexless relationship

Are you in a sexless relationship? According to experts, you are if you have sex less than 10 times a year. So what do you do about it? And do you want to do anything about it?

Some couples are happy with the intimacy they share, regardless of if it involves sex. The only time a sexless relationship becomes a problem is if at least one person is unhappy about it.

It's been my observation that when people find themselves in sexless relationships, they essentially became resigned to their fate. They claim the reason they stay together is for the kids, or for the finances.

At the end of the day, it's because they fear change. Some people simply live out a sexless existence and others choose to seek sexual fulfillment outside of the union. Both scenarios are emotionally and mentally unhealthy and are going to come to a head at some point.


I believe a toy is a great way to rejuvenate a sexual relationship. It can give her a quick fix between intimacy and it can be an additional tool for her to reach orgasm and feel more satisfied with the sex. It can give him a visually erotic boost and a stronger connection by helping his partner feel more satisfied.

However, minor sexual ruts are one thing. Sexless relationships are something else, and they require more than a battery-operated fix. It's important to understand the cause of it first.

Is it because of depression, fatigue, resentment or jealousy? Or is one person taking medication that is affecting his or her sex drive? An honest conversation is required to acknowledge the problem. Then, set out to fix out.

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